Another element of an effective Restorative Justice Circle is the feeling after. Did you as the keeper feel inspired? Do you have a warm feeling of serving others? It is not about fixing them, because that would mean you thought they were broken. It doesn’t mean feeling you helped them, that would imply a debt.
More perspective on fix, help, serve here and here. So much communication is non-verbal. That is why spending time in Circle Training – really know and understand the concepts and philosophy about Restorative Justice and Circle is so important.
Circle is based on Native American traditions. Restorative Justice Circles are an extension from that cultural world-view. These two sentances are very broad and general. Not all, but most Restorative Justice Circle practitioners that I know, did not grow up from a deep or intate connection to a Indigenous world-view. It takes practice to work from this framework, it takes dedication and constant self-evaluation.
Those I most trust with the process, those I am most connected to have worked very hard on an inclusive world-view. The best keepers I know, have examined their life, wounds, and strengths. From that they have developed a pretty good sense of humor! Please bring your whole self to relationships and you will serve others.