But brave Barbara now helping other survivors as a volunteer for Hawera Rape Crisis, as well as offering her services for Taranaki Victim Support has already faced down her would-be killer.
"I have done a restorative justice with (Yorke), " Barbara, 40, told Sunday News. "I went down and met her in Christchurch Prison in February.
"It was actually very empowering for me. She is nothing to me now.
"We talked about what happened that night; we went through that night. She put all the blame on him (Goodwin), which I knew she would. I just said, `Look, there were two of you there. Don't make excuses for yourself stand up and take responsibility for what you did, not what he did'.