Source: (2002) Journal of Systemic Therapies. 21(3):19-29.This article offers a compassionate exploration of the discourse of retaliation as the authors seek alternatives to cycles of violence. This article distinguishes monologic and dialogic discourse and articulates the relationship between trauma and monologic discourse. Retaliation is seen as a monologic form of discourse, in contrast to the dialogic forms of discourse that are necessary for healing and reconciliation. The article proposes two paths to restoration of dialogue: emotional reconnection between victim and victimizer, and connection of victims with witnessing audiences. Restorative jsutice is offered as one behicle for restoration of dialogue. The authorse derive ethical principles from their exploration, principles that can apply to peacebuilding, psychotherapy, and participation in community.