When explaining the talking piece I talk about equal opportunity, because it will be going around the entire Circle. I speak to sharing, explaining I am looking for a word or phrase. I also move deeper and explain the second stage, looking for a paragraph or two. A skilled Circle teacher I know will even address it kindly and inclusively outside of Circle. She’ll approach the student, state her observation (without judgement) ”I noticed we didn’t get to hear any of your stories, maybe next time” or state that she hopes to hear these.
The next thing I teach and train, is to monitor the emotional climate, making it safe for everyone to share. I am a firm believer in role modeling and honoring the talking piece as the keeper. If not, you are not promoting that equality and equity that a Circle provides. The Circle does the work, not the facilitator, and facilitator is specifically a word I do not use. If people pass or elect not to share. In a respectful way, I reframe a bit, “here’s a question we can all answer”. Don’t move on without engagement of the entire Circle. Create safe space. Always create safe space.
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