I asked him why he abused me. He said he picked me because I was the youngest sibling and therefore the easiest to manipulate. He said he didn't choose [to form a relationship with] my mum so he could get to us children, it just happened.

I also asked him if he understood that my anorexia was caused by what he'd done to me. He told me he'd deliberately blanked it out so he didn't have to admit to himself that it was his fault.

It was really important to me to let him know that while he'd affected the first 30 years of my life, I wasn't going to let him ruin the next 30.

He got very emotional and had to leave the room - he said he couldn't understand why I'd want to forgive him.

I told him it was because I didn't want to carry around what he'd done to me any more. I'd moved on, and forgiving him was for me, not for him.

I wanted an apology, and I got one. An apology is one word, but it's a massive thing.

I'm not as angry any more - that's lifted. And hearing him say that it was all his fault was massive. I didn't believe that until I heard it from him, and no-one else would have been able to convince me.

Without restorative justice I'd have struggled to move on with my life. I also had the chance to say goodbye to him, which was what I wanted.

From the story by Adam Eley for the BBC Victoria Derbyshire programme.